Yes, they do — here’s why.
Within the diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder, grandiosity and an extremely high self-image must be maintained. But how can someone create and keep up with such a facade? Well, it’s simple: they lie.
Lie’s are an easy way to get the instant gratification a narcissist needs to get them through this one moment. Lies are how a narcissist can keep power and control over you; they are the foundation for a narcissist’s world.
How can someone tout themselves as being flawless? How can someone do absolutely no wrong? We are all human, and we have all made mistakes in our life. Someone who tries to hide their flaws is shielding themselves from the truth.
So, when you are faced with a narcissist who is obviously lying to you, just know that they believe their lies (unfortunately).
They need to lie to get their way
It doesn’t matter what lie they are trying to push. The lie they have constructed is meant to satisfy you for the moment — whether the lie includes aggressive tactics or not.
Lies fuel the image that a narcissist is creating. Lies are how a narcissist can manipulate the situation.
I found that my narcissist lied to different people — with a different lie — to say what that person needed to hear. Lies are a way that a narcissist can manipulate you — along with gaslighting and blame.
But how does the narcissist not get caught by people questioning their various lies? Well, if someone says anything confidently, you are inclined to believe that. The narcissist in my life always said everything with such conviction that you had no choice but to believe them.
Of course, when I began to question them, their cockiness would turn to aggression.
A narcissist’s lies are their truth
The lies are anything that the narcissist needs you to believe; lies are the pillars for their life.
We all have expectations in our lives; we want certain things. Sometimes, we aren’t able to get what we want. When a narcissist is faced with this, they will do anything to get what they want.
I can only speak of the narcissist I had in my life, but they were keen on making their life seem luxurious. They made such extravagant purchases and would routinely make a fuss to show us the rich problems they had.
Their truth has to be big, extravagant, and over the top. From fancy campers to luxury cars to consistent home redecoration, it only screamed: look at me and see how amazing and powerful my life is!
But it was all a facade — simply leased items, mountains of debt, or even fraud.
Nothing will stand in their way
The lies are a slight bump for the narcissist to get what they want.
Lies are short and quick — achieving the desired results in the short term. But, in the long run, the lies can snowball into a monstrosity. The number of times that I have caught my narcissist in a lie is too many to count.
A lie is a simple way for them to achieve what they need at the moment — the future isn’t anything they’re concerned with.
If appeasing you, or someone else, will make their problems go away, they will do that. With the persistent need to be the best, a narcissist must fulfill a neverending hunger.
At the end of the day, a narcissist is someone with deep-rooted insecurities, who will do anything to get by in life.
The lies a narcissist tells are meant to free them of any responsibility or blame — and ultimately shift that onto someone else. Or lies can be a way for the narcissist to seem even more powerful.